What is it with special occasions and chocolate? I can eat chocolate any day of the week. It’s available, it’s somewhat inexpensive, and it makes me feel good. Why wait for a special occasion to send or receive it? Why wait for a special occasion to do something special for loved ones or yourself?
I don’t! And neither do you! Relationships are important enough to remember year round. As my friend Hilde says, “I think people use Valentine’s Day as an excuse not to remember to send flowers, candy, a kind note, etc. throughout the year.” I kind of agree with her.
When my mother sees something she thinks I’ll like, she purchases it and waits for a special occasion to give it to me. Usually, her excitement gets the best of her and she’ll give it to me while saying, “I saw this and just HAD to get it for you. So consider it an early Birthday, Mother’s Day, Anniversary, present.” I HATE that! Why does she think she has to wait for an occasion?
I think it’s her conditioning from childhood. Times were different then. She was taught not to squander money. To me that meant she was taught to be frugal or thrifty. So buying gifts without the reason of an occasion was not frugal.
I’ve broken THAT cycle for our family. When I see something and I have the money, I buy it for the person I’m thinking of.
While today is a day to go overboard in showing the ones you love just how much you love them. It shouldn’t be a substitute for showing you care year round. So take out your day planner or calendar and schedule at least one day a month to do something nice for people you care about. Write down exactly what you want to do for them on your calendar. If you can’t think of something right at that moment, put their name on a list and take it with you every time you go grocery shopping or to the mall. That way if you see something cute, you can look at your list to see if there’s someone you think would enjoy it.
Fun little things
~Send an email or card to your spouse, parent, child(ren), friend.
~Put a chocolate bar on your bosses desk with a note saying, “Thanks.”
~Leave a new colorful pad of post it notes on your secretaries desk with a note that says you appreciate him or her.
~Schedule an hour to go to Starbucks with a friend. (Do NOT talk about work.)
~Call someone who lives far away.
~Write a handwritten letter to someone special.
~Surprise your sibling(s) with a bag of cookies.
~Drop in on someone with their favorite drink.
~Send chocolate any time of year to your chocolate loving family and friends!
Don’t wait for a special occasion such as Valentine’s Day to give someone chocolate. Relationships matter all year round!
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